anxiety & self-sabotage:
a lack of self awareness is costing you time, peace, and a meaningful life
Various Mental and Emotional Challenges
Intrusive thoughts and overwhelming emotions determine so much of our lives, but only because we avoid them (and our tendency to continue to avoid them means that they will continue to prevent us from being free). Who are you beneath your unwanted thoughts, overwhelming emotions, and your habitual compulsions and anxieties (and how are these phenomena contributing to some mental health condition, such as anxiety disorders, social anxiety, panic disorder, panic attacks, etc.)? Greater calm means no longer being imprisoned by intrusive thoughts and negative emotions. And greater clarity about yourself (and the knots that keep you stuck in self-sabotaging behavior) allows for deeper self-connection, self-trust, self-confidence, and inner peace. You’ll no longer fear your own thoughts and emotions and no longer anxious about (and compelled to habitually avoid) situations and people that make you feel uncomfortable, including simply being yourself. Being less self-conscious means that your thinking/feeling/acting will be less (automatically) motivated by toxic self-interest, which will result in deeper connection and greater mental clarity and inner calm.
Escaping our uncomfortable feelings and thoughts means escaping people and situations that produce these feelings and thoughts. This means that our loved ones can often be most victimized by our own inner challenges because our most intimate relationships are subject to the anxieties and compulsions of our instinctive self. This is also the root of many self sabotaging behaviors in relationships. In fact, your instinctive self affects the depth of connection you experience in all of your relationships, not just romantic relationship. Greater clarity about yourself and your unconscious habits (i.e., greater self awareness) and greater inner calm frees you from the grip of the more destructive parts of your instinctive self. This allows you to open the heart and purify “toxic” self-interested motivations (e.g., fear, sadness, grief, pity, cruelty, comparison, inauthenticity, jealousy, greed, etc.) and no longer habitually sabotage relationships. This dramatically reduces feelings of loneliness and increases your capacity for emotional health, emotional connection, emotional intimacy, social connection (so you can stop feeling lonely), healthy relationships, and inner peace.
A Lack of Meaning or Purpose
It’s difficult to pursue your most meaningful projects if you aren’t connected with your deepest values and if you spend your life avoiding what triggers intrusive thoughts and overwhelming emotions and being pulled/pushed around by emotional overwhelm and self-criticism. When you habitually avoid situations and people that trigger unwanted thoughts and painful emotions, you’re actually avoiding yourself. Life becomes narrower and narrower (and you become more rigid). Spending your life running from yourself leads to anxiousness, alienation, and an unfulfilled life. Greater inner clarity and inner calm allow you to see how/where/when you are (habitually and automatically) imprisoned by overwhelm. This creates space for you to evaluate the commitments you perhaps did not know you were making. This allows for greater self-trust, authenticity, connection, freedom, and belief in your own inherent value. This allows you to find a spiritual journey (and spiritual growth)—i.e., to connect with (and pursue) the things that make your life meaningful and worth living (without the fear, doubt, and insecurity).
Instead of doing what you know is aligned with your core values, you get overwhelmed so easily that you procrastinate, miss opportunities, feel stuck, experience self-criticism (and even self-hate) and sabotage your own efforts to be fulfilled. Overwhelming emotions (such as destructive or negative feelings and intense emotion) and self-sabotaging tendencies can even cause you to attempt things (that you think will get you ‘unstuck’) that actually keep you trapped in (or even reinforce) old patterns. Greater clarity of mind within yourself and about your unconscious knots that keep you divided within yourself and self-sabotaging (this clarity comes from self-awareness). Greater inner calm allow you to more freely act in accordance with your more important values without trepidation. This means that you’re less concerned about “what others might think” and you can have more discipline and actively pursue what makes you feel more connected, independent, empowered, and free (and which allows you to connect with those who share our deepest values). Being aligned with our life values makes decision making easier and simpler.
It takes energy to continuously suppress your most overwhelming emotions and intrusive thoughts (as you attempt to micro-manage your inner life and how others perceive of you). It takes energy to manage dysfunctional relationships. It takes energy to continue to ignore your “inner voice” and hide parts of yourself that you don’t like. And it takes energy to combat emotions such as fear, greed, anger, sadness, pride, jealousy, delusion, etc. (And all of this depletes our energy levels and can even create physical health issues and leaves us feeling overwhelmed, whether we’re highly sensitive or not.) Greater inner clarity (about yourself and your unconscious habits) frees up energy previously dedicated to managing self-sabotage. And greater inner calm free up this energy and allows for more simplicity, ease, joy, and freedom, less self-criticism, and more energy to experience what matters most to your true self so you can live a meaningful life. For some, this means seeking a spiritual connection and becoming a more spiritual person. For others it could be as simple as finding more energy to pursue a hobby or deal with the stresses of one’s existing responsibilities.
Money & Time
The habits you develop to manage overwhelming emotions and intrusive thoughts often end up being expensive. So do your attempts to stop sabotaging yourself. These habits include “destructive” addictions (e.g., gambling, food, shopping, dysfunctional relationships, drugs/alcohol, attempting to “buy” connection/happiness, social media, etc.), but also addictions that we might not think to be destructive (e.g., spirituality, exercise, self-help, “helping” others and, again, attempting to “buy” connection/happiness, social media, etc.). Finding clarity within yourself calms the heart and allows your spending to be motivated by joy and connection and guided by the personal values of your true self (instead of remaining imprisoned by emotional pain, intrusive thoughts, and toxic self-interest). There is more faith in (and connection to) life itself (instead of a deep suspicion that life cannot be trusted). Freeing oneself of these destructive habits could result in retaining more material resources. Or it could give you the courage to pursue more resources. Or it could simply result in your being happier with the resources you already have.
how we help you transform anxiety and and self-sabotage into inner clarity,
inner calm, and self awareness
Vedic Astrology & Coaching
Your efforts to change/fix/solve yourself can actually reinforce the very habitual self from which you are seeking freedom. Focusing on your ‘self’ can cause you to remain firmly in the grip of your compulsions, anxieties, rumination, intrusive thoughts, overwhelming emotions, and destructive behavior patterns and thought patterns. On the contrary, focusing your efforts on making your implicit habits more explicit—gaining clarity about your habitual self—will allow you to see how your fulfillment is tied up in the tangled, negative emotions connected to the things you avoid.
A professional Vedic psycho-spiritual birth chart reading is a rich source of inner clarity and a sense of possibilities and choice. You will feel deeply seen and it will provide you with a more meaningful connection to your past and to your current situation, greater self-connection and self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-love. You will be in a better state of mind to outline a path to better personal care to help you find inner peace and naturally experience less mental fog and more mental focus around how to move forward. This is about self-awareness. (Even our birth chart compatibility readings are based on self-awareness.)
Taking care or taking action without support, however, is often difficult, as Balrāj directly addresses the deepest issues in your chart. This is why coaching and conversational hypnosis are integral parts of the process of change.
Deep Rejuvenation Breathwork & Meditation
This approach is about breathing re-education and self-awareness. Classical eastern spiritual traditions (such as yoga) weren’t concerned with solving the ego’s problems. Instead, these traditions were concerned with freeing awareness from the limitations imposed by your habitual self’s desire for permanent security. Freed from these limitations, experiencing more clarity, calm, and deeper connection with yourself, with others, and with life itself is not optional.
Seeing how much of your life is based on a relentless craving for permanent material/emotional/social security provides the kind of clarity that deepens the presence, meaning, and connection in your life (while deepening your capacity for happiness and reducing feelings of fear and isolation). But this means no longer avoiding parts of yourself that you would prefer to (continue to) avoid, especially those parts that motivate self sabotaging behavior.
This goes beyond self care tools or a restorative yoga practice, spiritual life coaching, (impersonal) group coaching programs, and well beyond providing hacks that allow you to “control” overwhelming emotions and/or manage stress. This involves a kind of inner clarity coaching, or something like clarity counselling or even spiritual guidance with a spiritual advisor. Yogic spiritual advisors offer spiritual practices (that are not religious) that are aimed at freedom, not solving personal problems (and freedom is what practicing yoga has always been about).
When addressing the deepest challenges in your life, willpower and a purely intellectual understanding of your problem aren’t always enough to change your behaviours. Also, we often tend to employ remedial measures that only help us further bypass or even reinforce our problem rather than face it directly with courage and awareness.
Conversational hypnosis is source of inner clarity that allows us to harness the intelligence and resources of the unconscious mind to untie the knots that keep us stuck. It is remarkably useful for those who get are struggling with self-sabotaging behaviour (and are too unclear/overwhelmed enough to correct these behaviours). It allows us to face our problem directly with deep (but fierce) compassion. The breakthroughs you experience are not simply intellectual, but rather produce unexpected behavioural and perspectival changes (affecting both mind and body). The result is deeper clarity and integration—a sense of being less divided within yourself, less confusion, brain fog, & distraction—that allow you to connect with (and pursue) the things that make your life more grounded, spiritual, and meaningful (without the fear, doubt, insecurity, and self-sabotage).
This goes beyond trying to correct “limiting beliefs” or trying “manifest” what (we think) is in our best interests (but could actually be reinforcing our overwhelm and self-sabotage). The unconscious is infinitely more capable than the ego could ever be.
6 or fewer sessions
Balrāj uses conversational hypnosis and your birth chart to help you find clarity, confidence, and untie the unconscious knots so you can experience transformed thinking and/or behaviour around a single issue in as few sessions as possible so you can move forward with your life. (This is not for the faint of heart.)
no astrology reading
no writing exercises
no daily homework
100% focus on eliminating a single anxiety habit
6-week program for individuals
Find clarity, confidence, and untie the unconscious knots preventing you from living a more grounded, spiritual, and meaningful life. This program is for those who have realized that “hacks” aren’t enough and need depth, resilience, and a stronger connection with themselves. This is a yogic approach to self-awareness, self-sabotage, and anxiousness.
professional birth chart reading + written summary
(conversational) psycho-spiritual hypnosis
self-awareness & inner clarity meditation coaching
deep rejuvenation & resilience breathwork coaching
6 sessions, 2+ hours each
Having a natal chart reading done by Balraj was a remarkable experience. He delivered clarity by defining my shadow, this deep unconscious driving force in my life which was not serving me well. This was something that I was only vaguely aware of previously. The reading provided me with a deeper understanding of how this has led to disappoinments and unfullfilled areas in my life. Balraj gave me many suggestions for positive ways to open up more fully to life, how to evolve to where I want to be in the world. This experience was like a soul chiropractic adjustment.
Carl Jung says "Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate." I mention this quote because it speaks directly to what Balraj can deliver to you in a reading. He will bring your unconscious map to the surface and you will be able to see it accurately and fully. This is liberating.
Balraj is a compassionate person who genuinely cares about each individual's well being in the world and their spiritual evolution. He is more than willing to lend a helping hand. In this time spent with him during a reading, he will teach you. He will speak to your soul directly.
Reston, Virginia, USA