ganesha, hindu god, birth chart compatibility and synastry and composite chart reading, the yoga of self awareness

Birth Chart Compatibility
& Synastry Reading

A Vedic Astrology Self-Awareness Approach to Birth Chart Compatibility

Improving the quality of your most intimate relationships might be the most difficult thing that you ever do. Why? Because improving the quality of your relationships requires that you open up to experiencing some of the most challenging aspects of yourself (and that you relate to a partner who may not ready/willing to be vulnerable when you are).

 

Your most intimate relationships are subject to the anxieties and compulsions of your instinctive self. In fact, your instinctive self affects your capacity for connection in all of your relationships (not just romantic relationships). 

 

You may very well recognize your past relationship mistakes and try to actively and consciously avoid them. Similarly, you may very well recognize the importance of (and try to create/strengthen) such factors as commitment, communication, trust, emotional intelligence, paying attention to each other, eye contact, etc.. However, trying to actively make yourself do any of these things is rarely successful. Our instinctive self is often much too strong—it arrives on the scene before we get there, so to speak—and we’re left regretting our actions again. We might even blame the other person (or look for more relationship advice) instead of develop self awareness and finally look at our own (habitual) selves. 

The importance of self awareness in relationships is profound. In times of relationship conflict, if the instinctive self arrives before our conscious self (like it usually does), the constructiveness of our conversation (and the life of our relationship) is determined by our automatic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (e.g., compulsions, anxieties, triggers, desires, etc.).

But change doesn’t require magic. It requires awareness of our situation and of our instinctive, habitual, “pre-reflective” self. Our habitual self will continue to run our lives—for better or for worse—unless we become more aware of it. Becoming aware of it doesn’t mean destroying it, but rather being open to it and being able to sit with it without running to a destructive habit (to avoid the discomfort of looking at aspects of ourselves we’d rather repress). The more we become aware of our habitual self, the less we remain imprisoned by it, and the more we are able to follow our inspirations with the fear, doubt, and insecurity.

 

A birth chart compatibility reading should tell you if this habitual, instinctive self is “compatible” (however this is defined).

Birth Chart Compatibility:
A Self Awareness Approach

In traditional Vedic astrology, astrological compatibility analysis— called kundli milan [kuṇḍlī milān], which means something like “horoscope matching”—emphasizes two factors: ashta kuta [aṣṭa kūta] and kuja dosha [kuja doṣa]. Ashta kuta is based on the position of moon in what are called “lunar mansions” nakshatra [nakṣatra] (sometimes called a or “birth star”), which is something like a zodiac based on 27/28 signs established around prominent stars. Kuja dosha is based on the position of Mars relative to other chart elements.

 

This traditional analysis is generally sought for a straightforward prediction about the longevity of a prospective relationship. In other words, the question being asked is essentially, “will this relationship last [forever]?” Perhaps implied in this question is another question: “will we be happy?” Always implied is the question, “will I be happy?” And the question almost never implied is, “what can I change about myself to deepen my own capacity for happiness in relationships?” Or, similarly, “what am I already doing to get in the way of my own happiness?”

 

Contemporary approaches to relationship compatibility continue to focus on the life of the relationship rather than the life of each individual. Balrāj emphasizes the life of the individual; he emphasizes self-awareness and mutual understanding. He wants you to learn how to be more self aware in a relationship. You cannot control your partner’s will (and whether or not they have a lack of self awareness in relationships); the good news is that developing self awareness is something that is entirely in your control.

For this reason, a compatibility reading with Balrāj just consists of two individual birth chart readings. However, there are three key differences between a standard birth chart reading done for an individual vs. one done for a couple:

  1. Both partners must be present for each reading.

  2. Partners can submit questions about each other.

  3. Balrāj will discuss the most significant findings of his own compatibility analysis to your individual birth chart readings.

In addition to using traditional moon-based chart interpretations, Balrāj’s psycho-spiritual approach adds other (overlooked) classical Vedic astrology compatibility methods and a unique evaluations of compatibility based on comparing each partner’s entire chart (and not just the position of the Moon and Mars). This latter approach—which includes both a “synastry chart” and a “composite chart”—provides rich insight into the psycho-spiritual dynamics of a relationship. A synastry chart involves overlaying the birth charts of each partner onto one another and reading this combined chart as a single chart. A composite chart is something like a merging of the two charts; it involves creating a new chart based on the mid-points between each partner’s individual planets. In other words, the mid-point between one partner’s Sun and the other partner’s Sun is the composite Sun. (This is done for each planet until a new chart is created.)

 

What makes Balrāj’s approach to interpreting the synastry and composite charts unique is in the interpretation: he interprets these charts using traditional Vedic and psycho-spiritual principles of interpretation. Balrāj uses a phenomenological/existential approach to yoga and classical yoga philosophy (and other similar spiritual traditions) and emphasizes inner clarity, self-awareness, and freedom (and not solving the ego’s problems). In fact, because of his interpretive focus, his method could readily be called a kind a “psycho-spiritual Vedic synastry” and/or a “psycho-spiritual Vedic composite chart”. This type of reading is not at all similar to generic horoscope compatibility predictions based on zodiac sign (e.g., sun sign, moon sign, rising sign, water sign, air sign, earth sign, fire sign), dates of birth, etc.. It is also quite different than simple “love compatibility” or specific types of compatibility: physical compatibility, financial compatibility, spiritual compatibility, intellectual compatibility, etc.

 

Compatibility analyses based on these additional methods could provide enough information to warrant its own reading, but no such reading could replace the insights gained in an individual natal chart reading. It’s easier to continue to avoid ourselves and instead attempt to fix something outside of ourselves, like a relationship or our partner (whom we might feel is a person lacking self awareness).

Most importantly, however, while it may not seem like it, your individual fulfillment exceeds the success/failure of any one of your relationships. A healthy relationship requires a kind of openness and vulnerability. Conflict in our most intimate relationships often reveals parts of ourselves we spend much of our time and resources trying to avoid. These are the very parts of ourselves that are affecting every area of life: our deepest fulfillment is hidden in our shadow. Individual birth chart readings address each individual’s capacities, challenges, and their paths to freedom, fulfillment, and meaningful living. These readings are, first and foremost, about inner clarity—self-awareness. This approach to astrological relationship compatibility emphasizes the way(s) in which each partner’s own individual struggles affect their relationship. This approach acknowledges the in-finite importance of individuality. And it is only after each partner is aware of their own unconscious dynamics that Balrāj can discuss the unconscious dynamics and vulnerabilities of their relationship.

Balrāj also explores simple practices that can be used to address a relationship’s vulnerabilities (including how, where, and in what ways each partner can get more out of all of their relationships).

This reading is intended for those in a serious relationship. 

BIRTH TIME REQUIREMENT: the moment of your birth is a requirement for this type of reading; a birth time accurate within 1-2 minutes is preferred, though insightful readings are possible if your birth time is accurate within 5-10 minutes (though this is not always true). If you are not sure if your time of your birth is accurate enough, please contact us before scheduling your astrology chart reading. Your birth date and location are, of course, required.

birth chart compatibility
& synastry reading

two individual birth chart readings, one per partner
(both partners are present for each reading)

2 readings, 2 hours each

$297 each

30-day program for individuals

professional birth chart reading
(conversational) psycho-spiritual hypnosis

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meditation coaching / breathwork coaching
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conditions & policies

effective January 2020

  1. Astrology consultations are conducted (and post-consultation summaries are written) in English.

  2. Any/all information provided in your professional natal chart reading is intended as guidance. Each client retains the right to use this information/guidance at their own discretion, and remains fully responsible for their decisions/actions. Balrāj is a yogin, professional astrologer and certified hypnotist, not a therapist or mental health professional.

  3. All data provided to Balrāj (including your personal information) and/or balraj.yoga is strictly confidential, and will not be shared with or sold to any third party.

  4. Though you will not be charged a fee to cancel/re-schedule your Vedic astrology reading, we kindly request that appointments be cancelled/re-scheduled 48 hours in advance. If you re-schedule your astrological consultation, please note that you may be required to wait several weeks for a new appointment.

  5. Due to the level of preparation involved in each birth chart analysis (Vedic astrology chart interpretation), refunds will not be given unless Balrāj is ultimately unable to deliver your virtual astrology reading.